Written by: Domenic Certa
1. Work Harmoniously with Others
One principle that applies to self-achievement is cooperation. Your willingness to work harmoniously with others is more important for your success than any other quality. People love to work with people who are willing because it makes everything flow smoothly. Be part of the solution not part of the problem. Be the kind of a person who is highly cooperative and you will experience magic in your relationships.
2. Do the Unexpected
One really helpful principle that can be applied to self-achievement is the element of surprise. The element of surprise says, “do the unexpected!” When you do the unexpected, you make people think differently about you. This means you continually seek ways that will improve others perception and opinion about you.
3. Do the Opposite
Sometimes doing exactly the opposite of what you have been doing up until now will really make people take notice. Our tendency as humans, when we find ourselves in a hole, is to dig deeper. In other words, we fight to be right. If you want people to take notice of your behavior, stop being right.
4. Follow-up and Follow-through
When you tell someone that you are going to do something, go to every extent to do it. If for some legitimate reason you cannot follow through, call them immediately and tell them the situation. The same goes for follow up. Your word is all you have and it is your reputation that is at stake. People give opportunity to people they trust and every time you follow up and follow through, you are building trust.
5. Create Relationships with Key People
A key part of self-achievement thinking is for you to identify the people, groups and organizations you must have relationships with in order to achieve your personal and professional goals. It’s not who you know, it’s who knows you. Are you worthy of their trust? Make a thorough list and then organize the list in order of importance. Write down your plan. Ask yourself, what must I do to earn their trust and respect? Then set out to make it real.
6. Be the Answer To Everyone's Favorite Question
Everybody wants to know, “what’s in it for me?” As a self-achievement advocate you always look for ways to assist others in achieving their goals. You become the silent observer, you figure out what other people need and then find a way to give that to them. It may be as simple as an encouraging word, a recommendation or a solution that you can provide. You will be looked upon as a problem solver and as you do that, you increase your value to that person or organization.
Deliberate Self-Achievement Actions
Here are two things you can do today to implement these ideas in your personal and professional life:
First, look at your relationships, especially areas where you are frustrated. Look to see if there is a completely different way of approaching your situation. It’s okay to freak people out, so do something positive and unexpected. Instead of disagreeing with their idea or plan, find a way to agree and then make it even better. That will blow their mind! All success comes from surprising people in some way. If you are normally resistant, become cooperative. Be a giver not a taker.
Second, identify the people, groups and organizations whose assistance you will need to achieve your goal. Continually look for ways to earn their support and cooperation by thinking in terms of what is in it for them.